INFJ self study

INFJ Cognitive Function Stack

INFJs have the following cognitive function stack:

1. Dominant: Introverted Intuition (Ni)

2. Auxiliary: Extraverted Feeling (Fe)

3. Tertiary: Introverted Thinking (Ti)

4. Inferior: Extraverted Sensing (Se)

Fe

Se

• inferior function

• Si demon

keeps me from being very present / aware of sensory things around me

se grip / si demon function might refer

demon function is considered the most repressed and foreign part of the personality. For INFJs, Si as the demon function means:

1. Difficulty with Past Experiences: INFJs may struggle to effectively use past experiences to inform present decisions.

2. Repression: Si is often repressed in INFJs, making it challenging for them to access or utilize this function consciously.

3. Potential for Destructiveness: When activated, the Si demon can be destructive to the INFJ and others, potentially undermining relationships and promoting chaos.

4. Negative Past Focus: INFJs might fixate on negative past experiences, finding it difficult to let go of traumatic or hurtful events.

5. Powerful but Uncontrolled: The demon function, while having low awareness, can be extremely powerful when activated, often in chaotic or uncontrolled ways.

• studies …

• superego performance art like knowing their perception

1. on self

   1. very complicated, bifurcated , double edged sword experience

   2. lots of self deprecation // fitting the mold in society

2. on societal things

3. on personal / close things / relationships

4. on the infinite … philisophical … existential … the contemplative.

5. on romance

6. on lust

   1. yes, a seperate thing

      1. probably informs the most hedonic thing. certain other hedonic sensation like drinking / drugs / etc do not come close to the primitive carnal sensory overload of satiating lust’s appetite …

1. love / crushs

2. limerence

3. lust

   1. sensory needs are there… physical sensation is grounding

4. money stuff

5. usage of time

6. importance of directionality

7. identity ..

• Limerence and Childhood Trauma: Limerence is described as an obsession or infatuation, particularly common in those with childhood trauma or neglect. This can create a tendency to idealize a perfect love that may not exist in reality, contributing to unhealthy emotional attachment patterns.

• Examples of Limerence in Relationships: The speaker shares examples, including a letter from Lisa, detailing past relationships where infatuation led to unhealthy dynamics like affairs, obsessive feelings, and unresolved trauma. Lisa’s struggle is used to illustrate how past trauma can fuel limerence, even leading to destructive behaviors.

• Healing from Limerence: The process of healing involves recognizing the trauma-driven behaviors and taking steps to break the cycle, such as setting firm boundaries, cutting off contact with toxic relationships, and avoiding "closure" which often keeps the limerence alive. No-contact strategies are emphasized for long-term peace.

• Therapeutic Techniques: The speaker suggests practical techniques for healing, like journaling or writing down obsessive thoughts to release them. By externalizing these feelings, individuals can begin to gain clarity and emotional peace, rather than getting trapped in the cycle of rumination.

• Importance of Healthy Life and Self-Respect: To heal from limerence, it is important to focus on creating a fulfilling, balanced life with healthy relationships, hobbies, and boundaries. The speaker emphasizes self-respect, personal standards, and emotional availability as crucial elements for moving past infatuations that are harmful or one-sided.